A common worry as we grow older
Summer Lotus Feb 24 2021 4 min read
Existential loneliness. It is the philosophy that each of us comes into this world alone and will die alone.
This is one thing that most people fear most as they grow older — loneliness. Loneliness accounts for the sadness, depression, and anger I see in some of the elderly people I encounter. From the start, if one can see that, at the end, we have to deal with loneliness, one should prepare for it.
Loneliness and social isolation in older adults are serious public health risks affecting a significant number of people in the United States and putting them at risk for dementia and other serious medical conditions.
How does one cope with loneliness?
1 Start saving when you can. Money, for all its bad implications, is very important. It grants you security and peace of mind. It means you must work hard and save as you earn.
With money, one can continue to live a fine life – through continuous education, you can find that life is forever evolving and interesting if you remain curious.
If you have accumulated a substantial amount of nest egg, you have the liberty to travel to many areas of the world and reap the rewards of your hard work. Travel is educational, it is stimulating as a whole new world of experiences opens up to you.
You need to have enough funds to enroll in learning. That allows you to meet like-minded people with whom you can interact and share.
2 Stay as healthy as you can — -It follows that if you want to enjoy your later years, you must aim to stay healthy, though I think people should smell the roses simultaneously as they toil through their lives.
The future is uncertain but we should still prepare for it. Know that, besides having poorer eyesight, diminished hearing, and losing teeth, weakening legs are one of the first signs of aging. That will limit your mobility to move freely.
Only when you prepare for the long haul can you live a fruitful life.
3 Always be kind and helpful. One should not do this with an ulterior motive, but if along life’s journey, you have touched others in some way, it will come back to you (but don’t expect it though).
Courtesy begets courtesy. Network and form ties with friends who are sincere and build on the relationship through mutual respect and care. If you are blessed with plenty, bless the less fortunate and life just comes back to you in a good way.
On my dental mission trips, I have come across some elderly, the oldest being almost 80, who came along with the group to render assistance during our trips to the less fortunate. It was a very touching experience.
Being a volunteer is one of the activities that will make you countless friends as it is a cheerful, nurturing environment. You will celebrate life together with good friends.
3 Stay positive — —Don’t expect things to go your way most of the time. Life has its nasty surprises but if you look at them and make the best out of any unpleasant events, they may be valuable lessons and make you a wiser and stronger person.
Having a sense of humor helps greatly.
I like the attitude of one old lady friend in her eighties. When she knew she was slipping away into oblivion, she had the good mind to gather her family around her bed and bade them farewell with a smile! What a magnanimous personality!
All things shall pass and our attitude will sustain us.
4 Know yourself – Indeed, a person needs to find out what gives him purpose and meaning in his. life and strive for it. Develop a skill, a passion, an interest and excel in it.
There is only one life but the opportunities are infinite. Laziness is not an option. You can be the very best in whatever you do if you want it bad enough.
Know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses.
“The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself “— -Mark Twain
I give kudos to those elderly who never let the fire die in them. They paint, they write, they bake, etc, and they enjoy and excel in their activities. It is a legacy they leave behind to inspire others to have that free and strong spirit to carry with them throughout living.
There is no time for complaints and griping. Always make each day a rosy one.
Loneliness. Who has time to be lonely? Time is all we have left and we must remember; We are too blessed to be stressed and lonely if you prepare your life.