Only you can help yourself out of this rut.
“Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.” – Napoleon Hill.
We all can identify with this statement.
People are naturally afraid of the unknown and would not risk failure, trouble or even inconveniences.
You can realize your fears.
If you expect failure, you will receive it.
If you always see the negative in everything, you will not accomplish anything.
There was a story written about an experiment done by a psychologist to see the effects of fear.
A few students were made to go into a dark room. Then he switched on a very dim light. In the room, there was a large pit of water with crocodiles. Over the pit spanned a narrow bridge.
When the psychologist asked the students to cross the bridge, they were very hesitant. After much prodding, a few students tried. One walked with a lot of trepidation, another shivered as he crossed while the third student crawled across in a bid to prevent being noticed by the crocodiles.
Soon, the light came on. The students realized that there was a net under the bridge. The psychologist asked if anyone would cross but some asked if the net was reliable.
Then he replied, “The experiment is done. This shows that it was an easy task but the fear has deterred you. You have lost your calm and direction and expressed fear. Once the fear has permeated the brain, you would lose confidence resulting in failure.”
I am sure we all have our imagined fears in our daily lives. I have always feared public speaking and that is due to my own self-consciousness.
To overcome fear is to put yourself in that condition. Through years of being active as a Toastmasters member, I have eradicated some of the obstacles and have seen a vast improvement in my self-development.
In fact, public speaking can be a rewarding experience as it allows the organisation of your thoughts and opportunity to hone your effective communication skills.
To overcome fear, you must be prepared. If you have taken the effort to craft a good script for your presentation and have adequately rehearsed, this would reduce your fear greatly, so it involves work on your end.
To overcome the fear of public speaking, you need to seize on every opportunity to speak so that you become better with each performance. You should value your feedback from the person whom you have chosen to evaluate and improve on the recommendations.
Used to be, my weakness and fear was in table topics as one has to speak off the cuff. To retract what one had said carelessly would be undesirable.
Over the years, I come to realize that if I learn to see everything from a positive perspective, what I said would inadvertently have a positive note to them.
Even when given a negative topic, I am able to espouse on something constructive. This is a leap of progress.
Never run away from your fear. There are some people who are afraid of technological changes but when they get their feet wet, they began to appreciate the wonders of today’s technology, their efficacy, and the conveniences that they bring to our lives.
What is worse is not keeping up with the changes. The obstacles to your progress will always be there and people are caught up with their own lives to really take you through your hurdles.
You feared being left out of the loop in today’s fast paced world, yet you persist in not doing anything. Nothing is ever going to change and you would become more archaic. Face your dread now or sink further into despair.
A person who is unable to control his fear would act in a counterintuitive manner. When negative thoughts arise, you would be suffocated.
When faced with challenges, failure is not due to the problem.
It is often due to the expansion of the problem, seeing the worst as likely to happen and hence not taking action.
By not over-worrying and overcoming fear, you may just accomplish what you want. You would then wonder, ” Why did I not overcome my fear earlier?”
F.E.A.R. has two meanings- Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise. The choice is yours. Pinterest.com