From my own humble experiences…..
Some people succeed in most things they do, some accomplish their goals easily but if you don’t, do not despair. The onus is on you to find out why. Don’t blame your stars, your parents or the country you are born in . The answers are often found in you alone.
I do not consider myself very successful but in those things that I have achieved, there are reasons that led to noticeable results. It is based on analysis and hindset that I want to share these thoughts with people who are interested.
I have achieved reasonable improvements in the learning of the Japanese language, building my own practice that is now 35 years old and still thriving and continue to enjoy sports at age of over 60 while most seniors would consider putting them on a back burner.
Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you — success.com
In the learning of a foreign language, you have to have genuine passion to learn. Dive deep into the basics and memorise by hard. It is the building blocks of learning the language.
Then obsessed about it, spend some time each day exposed to the characters, learn the phonetics by hard and build on vocabulary and grammar. Expose yourself to listening to the language on the TV, YouTube and preferably make friends of the native speakers. An overseas short immersion course have helped.
In my dental business, I have staff that have stayed with me for close to thirty years. Our relationship is built on mutual respect and trust and sincerity for the good of the patients. Staff should be rewarded accordingly and I think I have been fair. Also keeping abreast of the developments in one’s career keep the staff interested too as the enthusiasm is infectious.
I have succeeded to enjoy two sports up till now- Scuba diving and skiing. Most seniors see 60 years of age as the limit for these sports. These sports are not exactly very comfortable equipments to don but I am glad that I have persisted and see the discipline as rewarding. I see them as enablers to ensure safety and enjoyment of a beautiful sport.
Having done four hundred scuba dives and enjoyed the charm of the Ocean, I am happy that I did not quit on Scuba diving. It’s discipline has the additional benefit of training me to be calm in unexpected situations.
I am also glad that I have managed to explore the magnificent sights from the intermediate slopes of the Japanese alps and have learnt to negotiate steeper slopes.
They are by no means big accomplishments as an average person but they are small successes that could lead to bigger ones. Before this, I have never seen myself as being able to attain what I have now.
“Everything comes to you at the right time. Be patient”
The following factors are contributors;
1 patience and persistence — keep at what you want to learn and expect to flounder and struggle each time. A turning point would come when you have become hardened to this self conflict.
2 learn from your mistakes– Every mistake that is made, reflect and try not to commit again. It is really about fine tuning one’s craft.
3 Look for a good mentor or instructor who can give succinct instructions and is patient and encouraging. Be humble. A mean instructor may be able to teach you more. Do not let pride get in the way.
4 Do not set limit on yourself– age, family background, financial constraints etc. If you are passionate enough, you will find the ways not excuses. And believe in yourself.
Success is sweet. Failure is just part of the path to success. Do not wait for it to come. Go for it!